The anger caused by a gap between expectation and reality. This episode is for intermediate rowers who are learning how to race. How to turn your anger into something useful.
Timestamps
00:45 What happens if a race outcome isn't the result you hoped for?
Should you suppress the anger, spiral into it, or neither?
01:45 Identify it
Anger is expectation minus reality. The bigger the gap, the bigger your anger. Name your gap not the "failure". It's an outcome not a judgement on you, the athlete. Intermediate rowers are learning how to train first, and now you are learning how to race. This is the same process.
You've done enough training to have expectations of success but you haven't yet done enough racing to get the outcome you desire. Experienced racers expect this gap. Make the gap concrete - a time, a distance behind the winner. Name the gap and move it from being an identity problem to being a performance problem.
Notice what you say..... "I worked hard but the crew fell apart". Name it in numbers not feelings and emotions.
04:45 Accept it
Less "but" and more "and".
Your post-race debrief language will have used the word but. This cancels everything which went before it such as your training investment. And allows you to hold two truths at once. I trained hard and I had a bad race. Neither cancels the other out. You accept the outcome and your next race is still ahead. As masters there's always another age group or challenge to move into.
07:00 Change one thing
You're going to take one thing from your toolbox of skills, mental strength, fitness and change it. Changing everything resets expectation and creates another gap. You can only test the effect of what you've changed if you change only one thing at a time.
Ask yourself - what's one thing I already know how to do better, but I didn't do today? Your answer is already there, in your toolbox. Use the "and" mindset as you think about this. I
- f it's technical - you likely know how to fix this.
- If it's a tactical error - if it comes up again, you will make a different decision.
- If it's a fitness shortfall - train it, not blame.
09:45 Learn how to race
You are learning how to do this and pattern recognition is an important part of this learning. Experiencing different situations will teach you if what you have in your toolbox is sufficient to help you close the anger gap. Training alongside another crew can help you experience more race-like situations.
Go to your crew mates and coach and find out what their gap was and discuss what you're going to do about it next time.
